Today, with 87 days to go before the 2020 national college entrance examination, many examinees will feel that their scores have been set, and even come up with the idea: what should we do if the national college entrance examination fails?
If parents are asked such questions, how to answer them? And as examinee, how should oneself decompression? Today, let's talk about this topic.
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"Mom and Dad, what if I fail in the college entrance examination?"
That's an amazing answer
Child, you are going to take the college entrance examination soon. I just want to say a few words to you. You are very busy in senior three. If you don't say it now, you may lose the chance.
I want to tell you that the world is big and the test room is small; the test is a point and life is a line. No one wins everything because of the exam, and no one loses his whole life because of the exam.
Good test, bad test, parents are waiting for you to go home to eat!
Children, the success or failure turn around empty, green mountain is still in, youth is your capital, is not to participate in the college entrance examination, you can also live a wonderful life, the college entrance examination, just added a question answering training, why are you afraid?
Answer the questions that should be answered. If you can't answer them, you don't have to be sorry. No one can answer all the questions. Life is full of too many problems, there is no "standard solution", everything depends on what you think.
Children, where is a lifetime test? The examination paper is small in the world, and the life examination room is big. "Quantifying the world has always been a distortion or even a frame up of the real world. Your 12-year learning harvest is more than an exam paper?"?
Don't worry, the paper is just a piece of paper. The future is a picture. Children, there is more than one way to youth. Why rush to see the right answer?
Thousands of rivers have water, thousands of rivers, thousands of miles without clouds. Why advance anxiety? Looking up is infinite.
Children, the most intelligent life, not witty answer questions, but calmly accept all encounters. Luck, or misfortune? It doesn't exist, it's just experience.
You, either win in a fair way or lose in a sincere way. In fact, to fight for height and win or lose is always a kind of persistence and a game of human beings. There is no sense in the supreme.
Child, hard work, hard work, the rest is obedience. ? because you can't grasp the marking on the assembly line. You don't know who you will meet when you write a composition in tens of seconds. Life is not only hard work, but also luck.
Please believe that if we fail to meet our expectations, God will make other arrangements. There is no need to worry about tomorrow. Look at the birds in the sky. They are neither planted nor collected. They are not free to live more than we are? You should see that there is a kind of great freedom that transcends our rationality. Except for the final result, it's been a process for decades. There's no need to worry about success or failure for a while.
Children and parents know that it is possible for them to cry and laugh when they score in the college entrance examination every year. If life is a marathon, do not care about the position of the moment, the key is the direction of the toes. The hare with the wrong direction runs faster than the tortoise with the right direction. What healthy values are morbid success!
Only those who have gone to university know that four years later, who can really fight, do not say too early.
Children, in fact, diploma is just a train ticket, key soft sleeper, ordinary hard sleeper, specialized hard seat, private station ticket. ? when the train arrives at the station, they all get off the train to look for work, only to find out that the boss doesn't care much about how you came, only what you will do. You won't arrive at your destination earlier than you would in economy class because you're in first class.
Besides, there are towering trees outside the forest, and there are pillars outside the university gate. Growth, because of free water and air, because of free sunlight, but also because of the power of seeds.
Mr. Liu Daoyu, former president of Wuhan University, said: "whether a person can succeed or not is basically determined not by famous teachers and universities, but by yourself." When the eagle soars in the blue sky, no one will care where his nest is.
College entrance examination is only one stop, the road of life is in the long run. As long as you have a dream, you live in a space of transcendence. Reality is more limited and freedom is higher.
Children, it's hard to go, but it's a long time to come. Don't pay attention to those silly words that "if you don't succeed, you will become benevolent". Success is never the purpose of life. Except happiness, everything else is fake.
You know, life is full of so many false appearances that only death can't lie. Everything in the world is not fair, except death. So is the college entrance examination. Fairness is only an illusion.
Life is like crossing a river, a river, not an end; boat, not an end, crossing is an end. God gives you life and wisdom. You should use it well.
In fact, the only use of life for you is to experience all kinds of tastes. All experiences are the internal gains of life.
Test scores never determine happiness.
Child, you are unique in the world, no one is the judge of your life! Every short life is just a flash between two eternity. No matter you are a star or a firefly, you just need to send out your light. You don't need to care about other people's eyes. Life is your own life. It has nothing to do with others. The outside world is at most a kind of background.
Whether you do well or not, parents will wait for you to go home to eat!
Children, there is no life with full marks, and there is no situation with zero marks.
Don't cling to the title of the gold list, and don't be afraid of falling behind. College entrance examination, only a barrier, impact process, there is beauty, results, as calm as possible!
As long as you do your best, no regrets. Good test, bad test, you are the pride of my parents!
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The child asked the question,
How do parents respond?
First of all, we should adjust our mentality
The exam has not yet begun, everything is unknown. At this time, we don't need to talk with our children about "knowing why we should do it in the first place". In addition to increasing the tension and pressure on our children, this will also make them feel guilty and anxious, and even affect the parent-child relationship. Only when we keep our mind steady can we let our children find the backbone.
Every parent is looking forward to their children and their daughters. They all hope that their children can get good grades and enter a good university. Such expectations are beyond reproach. But when children's grades are set, the most important thing is the future. To help children to eliminate anxiety, relieve pressure, and face the following matters such as filling in the volunteer with a good attitude are what parents should pay attention to.
As parents of examinees, no matter how much worry they have in their hearts at this time, they must also try to relax and leave their children with the most calm smile. Remember, we must help children get rid of psychological pressure and anxiety, affirm and accompany them, and bring them a positive attitude. The road of life is still long. Although the college entrance examination is very important, it cannot destroy children's confidence and yearning for the future.
Secondly, soothe the child's mood
In their ten years of life, the college entrance examination should be the most important test they have experienced. The tension is certain. Having such a mood of worrying about gain and loss shows that children really care. We will guide him through the first pass of his life.
We can tell him calmly that everyone is taking the same test. You think it's hard, everybody. Even if the test is not good, it doesn't matter. There are other options. You can also go to other good schools. If you are not willing, you can go back to school.
You are still so young. Don't be afraid of anything. Youth is opportunity. Moreover, the college entrance examination will not determine your future. No matter what the result is, it is not your end point. What you have come to is a new starting point, and the future road still depends on the future. Parents love you, we will accompany you to face everything.
Finally, face it with your child
If a child's mood is always in a state of anxiety, we can help him to reduce stress in some ways. For example, a graduation trip or a family trip. Senior three's life is urgent, now there is a chance to relax. Go to nature, open your mind and forget your troubles. When the child's mood is calm, we can analyze it with him.
What is the worst that could happen? How bad is the worst test? Accept the worst. What can be done to improve the worst? Which universities can you choose?
It seems that you can choose a good university. I really can't. If you want to read again, mom and dad will support you.
Well, actually it's not that bad. Then we should not think too much about it now. We have come up with solutions to all kinds of situations, which are acceptable. In that case, there is nothing to worry about.
No matter what your grades are, mom and Dad love you so much and are proud of you. You are our most precious gift. Don't worry. Mom and dad just want you to be happy and satisfied. We all accept and appreciate all the results.
Give TA a hug, your dearest child.
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How should college entrance examination students decompress themselves?
Every June, for senior three students, it is a war. Although the college entrance examination can not determine the fate of a person's life, it still has a certain impact on everyone's life direction. At this time, many students are ready for the two-day college entrance examination, but many candidates are in a state of anxiety.
As senior three students look up to the college entrance examination, more and more people's psychological pressure is focused on test anxiety. Numerous cases have proved that too nervous, anxiety and other bad mentality has become the first killer for many college entrance examination students to give full play to their disorder. Therefore, overcoming the anxiety before the examination is a required course for candidates before the examination, and also a crucial link in the preparation for the college entrance examination.
In the last sprint time, how can senior three candidates adjust their psychological state and successfully pass the most important period before the college entrance examination? What should parents do? How should examinee depressurize oneself again?
Question 1: Anxiety
Downplay goals and overcome anxiety. It is understood that the more prominent problem among examinees is the spread of anxiety. Some examinees even suffer from insomnia due to nervousness.
According to the introduction of psychological experts, many students who consulted with her are also facing a very anxious situation. "There are probably three reasons. One is that some examinees worry about their review is not good enough to cause anxiety. Second, some students are afraid that they will not be admitted to the university if they are not careful. The third and most common is that many students are worried about playing badly. "
Question 2: fatigue
Work and rest reasonably to relieve physical and mental fatigue. At present, one of the most prominent problems among the candidates is that after nearly one year's review in senior three, some of them feel tired physically and mentally. It seems that some of them can't keep going. The closer they are to the exam, the more obvious their performance will be.
Han Chuang, a psychology teacher in senior three, said that facing this type of students is mainly to encourage them, "I tell them that the college entrance examination is not only a contest of knowledge level, but also a contest of will quality in many cases. We should believe that our efforts will be rewarded and persistence is victory."
Han Chuang said that students with this kind of problem may have deficiencies in their ability to resist pressure, but if they persist, their will quality will be greatly improved, and in the long run, their ability to withstand pressure in the face of difficulties in the future will also be improved.
Six moves to help overcome test anxiety
1. Master some methods of stress adjustment: positive suggestion and deep breath adjustment