Ten years of sharpening a sword, and then going through the last 72 days, the sword will come out of the sheath. Facing the final sprint, the students dare not neglect, and the parents are even more anxious.
So what do you need to do as a quasi senior three parent to help your child successfully spend the last 72 days?
It is suggested that parents in senior three should be assistants of children's learning methods, secretaries of learning process, housekeepers of time arrangement, experts of crisis management, dieticians of diet, etc. in the remaining time, they should keep in touch with teachers on the basis of teachers' work, and then do a good job according to children's specific situation.
Last two months
Three stages of psychological development of senior three students
The first stage: the period of negative doubt
In April, the college entrance examination was postponed, the online class was over, and the senior three students resumed their classes and faced with preparation for the exam. With the arrival of the opening test and the model test, some students' scores improved greatly, and they will be more confident in their study.
However, after several efforts, many students still haven't made progress in ranking, or their ranking hasn't met their expectations. They have doubts about themselves. They are not sure whether they can still get into university this year. They are at a loss in their mind.
At this time, children need parents to give practical encouragement and make efforts. No progress in ranking does not mean no progress in their performance.
Because others are also working hard, others are not sitting there waiting for you. In fact, everyone is improving. Not improving in ranking doesn't mean that you can't go to university.
The second stage: the period of not confident to give up
With the beginning of three rounds of review in late May, some children have given up because of their lack of self-confidence.
The reason why these children give up is that they only compare with their classmates around them and their classmates in the same grade. In fact, they forget that they should compare with the students in the whole province and see their advantages more.
The third stage: fear and anxiety
By the end of June, with the approaching of the college entrance examination, all the children will have more or less fear and anxiety. At this time, parents should not use the words of "don't be nervous, don't be afraid, it's nothing if you can't pass the exam, and you can take the exam next year" to comfort the children.
Because such words can only make children more nervous. You can find a more professional person to give them some suggestions, or you can keep silent and wait for the school to do work for them.
Adjust your mind and control your mood
Parents should strive to create a warm, relaxed and harmonious family atmosphere, do not deliberately create an atmosphere of tension and depression for students' college entrance examination, and less talk about college entrance examination is conducive to college entrance examination;
Parents should be harmonious and reduce conflicts, "there is no war in college entrance examination"; "see through, don't tell through" -- a kind of tacit communication and reminder; don't care too much.
Parents should adjust their mentality: ordinary, calm, understanding, caressing, inspiring and trusting; happy college entrance examination, happy college entrance examination; respect for students' personality, review methods and coping strategies, as long as students are right.
Parents should pay attention to control their emotions and comfort students to deal with all kinds of troubles, such as: memory decline; level does not rise but falls; test room tension; stress and anxiety.
Lower expectations and accept reality
Parents should lower their expectations, prefer to be lower rather than too high, and stress should be lower rather than too high. Too high expectation will lead to the imbalance of parents' mentality and put undue pressure on students.
Anger without struggle may cause students to withdraw and escape; blame and complain may cause students' psychological rebellious; high score requirements may make students intimidated; study pressure may make students at a loss.
In particular, parents should be reminded to maintain normal expectation psychology, accept students' actual performance and existing ability, and teach reasonably: change anger into motivation and promotion; change blame into calm persuasion; change high score requirements into appropriate indicators; change learning pressure into relaxation and regulation.
Inspiring positive cues
Positive cues, especially those from relatives, friends or teachers, will almost certainly have a good effect on children's psychology and mind. However, cues from relatives often contain exaggeration and expectation.
So don't define children easily. When a child does not do well or encounter setbacks in some aspects at a certain stage, parents may say: "I believe you will do better next time", "you have always been the best", etc.
In any examination, the examinee needs to have the confidence to win. What the senior three students need most is the encouragement of their parents. The progressive children should be encouraged to continue their efforts;
Children who occasionally make mistakes should be encouraged to find out the causes of the mistakes and the ways to avoid them. They should be given a promising and accessible goal. They should not always compare the top students in the college entrance examination, nor their children with their relatives and friends.
Do a good job in Logistics
College entrance examination preparation is a long-lasting battle, and the body is very important. As a parent, we must do a good job in logistics to ensure that students have a rich breakfast before they come to school in the morning. If possible, we can arrange a place for students to take an hour's lunch break at noon, which is very important for children.
Every parent must have a sense of service when they are ready for the exam and their parents do a good job in logistics. But don't care too much.
From the perspective of students' psychological feelings, the concern of parents may not all play a positive role: students are thinking hard, and their father comes to ask, "how is the review?" Students just entered the state of continuous thinking, mother brought a cup of hot soup: "first drink and then review", at this time, students have to cut off thinking. Students sit at their desks and concentrate on their study. Parents can quietly deliver milk.
Other parents, when they came to the exam, were afraid that the students would not eat well, which affected the exam, so they tried to improve the food. Results big fish and big meat, make the student physiology maladjusted, study energy not enough, even affected the body health.
Some parents, looking for the advertisements, buy nutritious products and brain tonics for their students, hoping to create a miracle of eating and learning. From the perspective of the effect reflected by the students who used to eat like this, they often spend money for nothing.
Therefore, parents' psychological care should be meticulous and material care should be scientific. Students who live on campus at ordinary times should still live on campus during the examination. Parents usually don't go to the school to see the students, and there is no need to accompany them before and during the examination.
Senior three this year, whether for students or parents are a test. No matter what the outcome is, at least this year, the whole family will work together for the same goal with a smile. This experience will remain in memory and become the most precious treasure of the family.
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